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Friendships don’t fade because people stop caring — they often fade because expectations quietly grow too large. In later life, maintaining friendships works best when connection feels supportive rather than demanding. The goal isn’t to do more together; it’s to stay meaningfully in touch without draining your energy.

Instead of trying to see friends more often than you can reasonably manage, choose a rhythm you can maintain. A standing monthly lunch, a weekly phone call, or a short check-in message on the same day each week provides continuity without pressure. Predictability reassures both sides that the relationship is steady, even when time together is limited.

Friendship doesn’t require long visits or constant updates. A brief note that says, “I thought of you today,” or sharing a photo of something familiar can be enough. These small gestures keep connection alive without turning it into an obligation.

Rather than declining plans with vague excuses, it’s often kinder to name your limits plainly: “Evenings are hard for me now,” or “I do better with shorter visits.” Most friends appreciate clarity. It prevents misunderstandings and allows relationships to adapt instead of fading.

Not every friendship needs depth or regular conversation. Some thrive on occasional contact — a holiday card, a shared memory, or an infrequent phone call. Allowing relationships to exist at different levels prevents overextension while preserving connection.

People change, circumstances shift, and friendships naturally adjust. Letting go of how things “used to be” makes room for how they can be now. Connection that feels comfortable is more sustainable than connection built on obligation.

When friendships fit your life rather than crowd it, they become a source of support and comfort instead of stress. Thoughtful, manageable connection often lasts longer — and feels better — than constant engagement.

“The Bench Outside the Pharmacy”
From the life overview of James P., 87, Santa Fe, NM. Shared with permission.

The bench wasn’t meant for lingering. It sat just outside the pharmacy doors, with its metal slats always baked warm by the sun. Positioned so that people could wait for rides or catch their breath after errands, that bench provided a nice place for me to sit every Tuesday while my wife went inside the pharmacy to pick up her prescriptions. I would tell myself that resting there was easier on my knees than standing.

At first, I watched cars. Then I watched people: a woman counting change before going in, a man arguing quietly into his phone, or a teenager spinning the bench’s shadow with his foot, bored but pretending not to be. No one ever stayed long, which made the place feel oddly honest. Nothing had time to perform.

One Tuesday, my wife took longer than usual. She had a question for the pharmacist, as I later learned. As I sat there alone, listening to the automatic doors whoosh open and closed, I realized how rarely I let myself be idle without purpose—waiting without fixing, just sitting where I was told to sit.

When my wife exited the pharmacy, she was smiling apologetically. I didn’t stand right away. Instead, I patted the bench and said, “Give me one more minute.” She laughed, just how she always did when I surprised her by slowing down.

I don’t go with her anymore. But whenever I pass that pharmacy, I look at the bench and think about how much of our lives happen in the margins—outside the doors, between tasks, while nothing urgent is being asked of you.

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